Welcome to my gallery showcasing my incomparable style! Kidding, I have been told these were two of the worst fashion choices I have ever made, BUT that is okay because I was thriving and living my best life :)
So many times we go through life so concerned about our outward appearance and what people see that we forget about what we want and what we love. We will never be able to please everyone and that is a tough lesson to learn. Learning that it is okay to not be best friends with everyone and that you will always rub someone wrong is life!
I love this quote I read by Danielle LaPorte, "You will always be too much of something for someone: too big, too loud, too soft, too edgy. If you round out your edges, you lose your edge. Apologize for mistakes. Apologize for unintentionally hurting someone — profusely. But don’t apologize for being who you are."
This idea of being unapologetically me is something that I have experienced many growing pains in and it has been a long journey. I was the queen of the FOMO club and people pleasing, loosing more and more of myself with each passing day. It took finding my passion and moving to ultimately force me to learn about being unapologetically me. There was a lot of friendships lost and painful conversations and loneliness but it made me stronger. Like the girl wearing those crazy outfits out in public around hundreds of people, I learned to not care about the outside and to be unapologetically myself and thrive.
Unfortunately this struggle isn't solely mine. I see family and friends and strangers alike struggling to be 100% themselves. It's sad to come to the realization that we are constantly trying to be someone else or a different version of ourselves- and it is always for someone else whether its a significant other, parents, friends, or even society. And why? To try and be their form of perfect or acceptable? By doing this, we are not only depriving the world of our true selves but we are also robbing ourselves of people and relationships that value us as we are.
We are all UNIQUE and are not called to be some watered down version of the perfect YOU that God designed. By choosing to pretend and fit others expectations we are slapping God in the face. Turning around and saying that what he made in us was not good enough.
Guys. Gals. We have to do better. Be better. Love people and cherish them for what they bring to the table not what you want or wish them to. Let's look at ourselves through Gods eyes. Through the eyes of those who love us when we are unapologetically us.